The latest green flag? Not using AI, survey states.

Luddites can be sexy.
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Daters are a bit fickle with their feelings on AI, with some saying companion AI is a dealbreaker but still using it to conjure up messages to a potential date. But a new survey from the dating app Hily suggests that it's sexy to be a Luddite.

Sixty percent of Gen Z and 54 percent of millennials would find someone extremely attractive if they admitted to never using AI to make personal decisions, according to a Hily survey of 3,500 American Gen Z and millennial daters.

Meanwhile, 64 percent of Gen Z and 56 percent of millennial daters wouldn't date someone who does. Even more (75 percent of Gen Z and 68 percent of millennials) would be immediately turned off if a date used AI to decide whether they should go on a second date.


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Among Gen Zers who wouldn't date someone who regularly used AI to make decisions, the top three dealbreakers are using AI to analyze a relationship conflict (75 percent), processing emotions like a therapist (69 percent), and seeking career advice (56 percent).

Asking AI about private matters is also a red flag, this survey suggests. Sixty-two percent of Gen Z and 53 percent of millennial daters in the U.S. wouldn't date someone who asks AI whether something in their sex life is healthy. The numbers jump up slightly (66 percent of Gen Z and 54 percent of millennials) when it comes to being uncomfortable if a date discusses their sex life with AI.

If you look at the full survey responses, you'll see that respondents were made to respond on a gradient of "completely agree" to "completely disagree" on sentences like, "I wouldn't feel comfortable if someone I was dating discussed our sex life with AI."

So it's not as if all the respondents came to these conclusions totally on their own, but the results are still telling. As people, including singles, continue to adopt AI, there's a growing contingent opposed to its use — so much so that it's a red flag.

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Anna Iovine
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Anna Iovine is the associate editor of features at Mashable. Previously, as the sex and relationships reporter, she covered topics ranging from dating apps to pelvic pain. Before Mashable, Anna was a social editor at VICE and freelanced for publications such as Slate and the Columbia Journalism Review. Follow her on Bluesky.

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